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Saturday, February 27, 2010

...gila bayang itu hukumnya harus...

home hunting is my newest enthusiasm...this shall keep me busy for quite sometimes now...it's the phase of life in which i feel it's about time i ought to have a quality living on my own...i need my space...i'm currently eyeing on cozy apartment or condominium located either in Setapak or Ampang district...new develop properties don't interest me much as i'm planning to move out from No14 at this very year...i'm praying for the best to come...aminn...

last monday, i had a quite stressful day at work...half of DGAs went holidaying in Krabi...huuu~~~Abie went to Oman for business trip...and i can't go makan with Beebee...she had her busy time too :(

there went my boring monday morning...mengade me?!!oh yess...i did asked on S's well being via instant messages...

no reply in the morning - my hati perempuan was wondering: am i matter to S?

i kept my nerves at bay...later at around 3pm, S replied asking what's with my odd question...i explained that if i turn to care for others' problems, eventually they will ease me from mine...

getting my points across, S shared his day...i poured a little of my unhappiness - and jokingly asked for S's favour to set them free at the ocean...(S's department will be having a teambuilding session the day after in PD)

S laughed it off and started reminding me of the Hereafter getting nearer...i was dumbstrucked for seconds and i answered back in agreement...S then advised me on being patience...his advice calmed me...i love hearing them...i related it to a story i've read:

there was once a sahabat asked our prophet Muhammad (pbuh) for advice...and he answered with just two words: Jangan Marah (in Arabic)...again, this sahabat asked for advice from him...he replied back with the exact two words also: Jangan Marah (in Arabic)...i like this story for it teaches us to be patient by keeping our anger...

and i think i've given the same advice to S...maybe twice...because sometimes i feel S is garang...of course laa he'll be denying...

OK...back to S's conversation with me...i ended them wishing S to relax during his teambuilding session; not worrying as i can be patient with my problems...and so can he with his...insyaAllah...

then, the whole of last week went by with 'kurang teman bicara' mode...haha...

anyway,i still had my good time kain shopping with Azwa & Pipah...they lured me for 'just seeing' trip to Abang Hadi's house...hey...come on laa...how can i be 'just seeing'?!!now, i got myself 3 more kain pasang...we had a good bargain...thank you...and i even purchased a blouse for Mama...

ohh...and next thing was, my roomie came back from her honeymoon...she had her time at No14 packing her stuffs...on wednesday night, we went together to her new resident in Bukit Jalil...huu...so far la Ujie...wish you well my dear...

finally thursday came - last working day of the week...yeay...still the same boring day - i've concluded most of my short term job assignments...and it's time for PPA...i don't like this :(

in the evening, i received a text from Beebee of her return from the teambuilding session...S must be really tired and i don't want to kacau him...

when do i kacau S? hehe...on friday afternoon...

i texted S asking about his teambuilding session and jumped to my query on some matters...S provided his feedback and i asked another different question...this time, he didn't sure of the answer...i made him share the answer if we ever find it later and i wished S a happy recovery for he hurt himself a little during paintball time...

after Asar prayer, i sat down with Mama discussing things and i asked the very same question to Mama...Mama gave me three books...i tried to search for the answer but to no avail...

instead, i came across a different topic...something that interest me...here goes:

GILA BAYANG
Soalan: Apakah hukumnya seorang perempuan meminati seorang lelaki sedangkan lelaki itu tidak mengetahuinya?

Jawapan: Seseorang perempuan kalau meminati seseorang lelaki kerana kesolehan dan kebaikannya adalah dituntut dan hukumnya harus dalam Islam.Begitulah juga dengan seseorang meminati pemimpinnya yang soleh dan taqwa.Meminati di sini dalam ertikata mahu mencontohi ibadah-ibadahnya dan tingkah lakunya.

Sehubungan dengan itu kalau seorang perempuan meminati seorang lelaki soleh dengan hajat ingin berkahwin dengannya sudah tentu ini digalakkan malah ia merupakan langkah yang baik. Kalau sudah berkenan di hati, segeralah berterus-terang dan minta dia meminang.

Kalau meminati lelaki yang kurang dikenali kesolehannya lebih-lebih lagi yang jelas berperangai buruk, maka hal begini amatlah dilarang oleh Islam. Lelaki yang bakal menjadi suami mestilah orang yang lebih baik Islamnya daripada isterinya, ini kerana suami sebagai ketua yang akan bertanggungjawab mendidik isterinya itu.

Selain itu, kalau seorang perempuan meminati seorang lelaki untuk suka-suka saja tanpa ada keinginan hendak berkahwin dengannya adalah haram kerana ia akan membuka jalan-jalan maksiat.

BERCINTA KERANA ALLAH
Soalan: Bagaimana bentuknya yang dikatakan seorang lelaki dengan perempuan yang bercinta kerana Allah?

Jawapan: Percintaan kerana Allah bererti berlaku percintaan di antara dua insan kerana perintah Allah.Tiada berlaku dalam percintaan itu perbuatan maksiat sama ada kecil mahupun besar.Di sini dihuraikan apakah yang dimaksudkan dengan kerana perintah Allah itu.

Kita kena ingat bahawa Allah perintahkan kita supaya mengasihi orang yang lebih mulia daripada kita, menghormati orang yang beriman dan bertaqwa, membantu orang susah, menolong orang yang memerlukan pertolongan dan banyak lagi kerja-kerja kebajikan yang lain.

Jadi, kalau berlaku percintaan di antara dua insan itu hendaklah di atas dasar perintah Allah tadi. Ertinya, kalau seorang perempuan mencintai seorang lelaki hendaklah kerana ilmunya, akhlaknya, imannya dan Islamnya. Begitu juga lelaki, kalau mencintai perempuan hendaklah kerana mahu menyelamatkannya atau membelanya dari penderitaan yang ditanggung.

Percintaan yang murni adalah percintaan yang tidak didalangi nafsu syahwat. Mereka yang seperti ini tidak terbabit dengan pertemuan haram (khalwat), tiada perhubungan sulit dan tidak akan melakukan perbuatan-perbuatan haram yang lain. Mereka yang bercinta seperti ini sentiasa mahu disegerakan berkahwin untuk mengelakkan maksiat dalam bentuk apa pun. Setelah berkahwin percintaan tersebut disuburkan lagi, dipupuk, dibelai hingga kekal sepanjang hayat.

KENAPA SAYA LAMBAT BERTEMU JODOH
Soalan: Saya sehingga sekarang masih belum berkahwin. Kawan-kawan sebaya sering bertanya dan ini merunsingkan.

Jawapan: Soal lambat kahwin bukan soal kita, manusia mana yang tidak mahu berkahwin dan manusia mana pula yang hendak kahwin lambat.Kahwin adalah fitrah semua orang, semua hendak berkahwin. Cepat atau lambat bergantung kepada apa yang ditakdirkan Allah.Semuanya tersembunyi hikmat-hikmat tersendiri.

Jodoh tidak datang begitu mudah tanpa diusahakan. Oleh kerana kita tidak tahu siapa jodoh kita, maka beberapa usaha bolehlah dibuat. Di antaranya:

  • Sembahyang hajat minta Allah ketemukan dengan orang yang soleh
  • Minta ibu bapa carikan
  • Minta bantuan orang tertentu yang amanah
  • Setelah ada pilihan, sembahyanglah Istikharah untuk meminta pilihan tepat dari Allah
  • Setelah pasti orangnya, hantarlah rombongan meminang
Kawan-kawan sepatutnya membantu mencarikan.Begitulah kawan yang baik.Umat Islam perlu memerlu dalam semua hal.

S, sudi tak bimbing Liza ke syurgaNya?

Mama said to me not to put much hope...it will come naturally easy...we can't foresee men...

but, gila bayang itu harus...ahakksss...

friends, do pray for our happiness...that will just do...thanks :)
will appreciate that...insyaAllah...aminn...

6 comments:

tunbegia said...

haku ada 2 umah lelong area ampang for sale, u might interested?

salam liza,

tunbegia said...

kalau camgitu tak apalah,
tapi kalau nak haku tolong carikan yang below RM150K boleh agaknya,

tunbegia said...

salam aliza,
u got mail,

z.m said...

liza, that's a very sweet article. i guess i am in your shoes too and it has become a routine to me that i will like someone more than friends while the other party in all probability will not return the same feelings. i have reservations about asking guys out, knowing how sensitive and perasan (i dunno the english equivalent) malay guys are so i get it how the waiting and longing feels like. however i hope u fare better than me, and i hope it will work out between u and s.

i'm the girL said...

"Kalau sudah berkenan di hati, segeralah berterus-terang dan minta dia meminang"

so, ape lagi liza.. just let him know your feeling.. samada dia suke atau tidak at least u da cube kan.. selagi u tak cakap, tak tau bile die nak respond kan.. :)

chaiyok!!

HiDa said...

So dear what is ur next step?